As women, we often face a lot of pressure to fit into certain moulds of behaviour and appearance. Society tells us that we need to be pretty, polite, and demure to be accepted. This can lead to a lack of confidence and a disconnection from our true selves. When we encounter other women who are confident and self-assured, we may feel intimidated or uncomfortable. But why is that, and how can we overcome it?

Firstly, it’s important to recognise that feeling intimidated by other women is a common experience. We may be envious of their success, their beauty, or their charisma. But we can turn these negative emotions into positive ones by looking at the reasons why we feel uncomfortable. Is it because they are giggling out loud at a bar, and you were taught to be quiet and demure? Or maybe they are getting a lot of attention, and you were taught to blend in and not draw attention to yourself. Reflecting on these reasons can help us identify the root cause of our discomfort and empower us to make changes.

One way to overcome this fear of intimidation is to connect with our true selves and build our confidence. By understanding our own values and beliefs, we can create a solid foundation of self-worth that allows us to embrace who we are and lift others up. When we feel secure in our own skin, we are less likely to feel threatened by the confidence of others. Instead, we can celebrate their successes and appreciate their unique qualities.

Mudrika de Maria, a best-selling author in transpersonal psychology and an inspiring female entrepreneur, believes that another important aspect of overcoming the fear of intimidation is to support and empower other women. When we see other women succeeding, it can be easy to feel jealous or envious. But instead of tearing them down, we should be lifting them up. By encouraging and supporting other women, we can create a network of positivity that benefits everyone. When we help each other succeed, we all benefit.

We can always use other S.E.X.Y. women as inspiration for us to find our own S.E.X.Y. Mudrika de Maria’s top favourites are Marilyn Monroe and Coco Chanel. They are so very different, yet inside, they are very similar in confidence, empowered and truly themselves. Wow, they were way before their time and inspire me even today.

They had their successful careers and were still so S.E.X.Y. and feminine. I think that as time has gone by, technology has taken over and our brains have shifted. This has put us more into “doing” mode instead of paying attention to our intuition and feeling our feminine vibe.

Those two beautiful women were strong and successful but didn’t have all of the technology bombarding them with new information and roles to play, with constant new goals to achieve. Successful women to me these days are more than just the successful entrepreneur; they are the successful mums, friends; they are confident and may not be outwardly expressing their S.E.X.Y., but they are still feminine and confident, which is beautiful.

We encourage you to admire women who are S.E.X.Y., not just the famous ones, but the ones in your everyday life; watch them and get curious, see what you think makes them S.E.X.Y. What can you take on and adopt? Why not!

In conclusion, we can overcome the fear of intimidation by connecting with our true selves, building our confidence, and supporting and empowering other women. By doing so, we can break free from societal pressures and embrace our unique qualities. Let’s admire and learn from women like Marilyn Monroe and Coco Chanel, who were confident, empowered and true to themselves. We can follow in their footsteps and become our own version of S.E.X.Y. Follow us on Instagram at @mudrikademaria for more inspiration because you deserve the best.